I know right from the start that this is going to be a very controversial article, but in order to understand our modern relationship dynamics it must be looked at.
Before I say too much I want to once again acknowledge that strong independent women have added a lot of value and have indeed become a strong fiber of our nation and who we are as a people.
This empowerment however truly is a double-edged sword. When it comes down to a long-term relationship or marriage, a woman who has her own independence essentially becomes a dueling force with her husband.
All of a sudden it is the man who is supposed to be in line with his wife and often just has to cater to all of her demands and needs. It is not really a woman’s fault necessarily for how she became who she is, it is just the reality that we in America (who are married to each other) have to deal with it.
It is the natural and biological role for the man to be the head of the house, however some interesting things have happened in the past three decades. Women today have more freedom and opportunity than ever before in history in our country here and now.
Because of a woman’s now inherent character and behavior, any man who chooses to be any relationship with her for a longer-term, is going to have to put up with a lot more drama than really is natural. This is the dilemma of millions of American men today.
A woman is sometimes so strong in her own character and independence, that she will easily lead the family instead of the man. I know of several families specifically that are like this personally. They really is a role reversal and is not natural; but as long as one person really is the head of the house then at least there is some semblance of balance.
This is not just a hard-core traditionalist approach, rather I want to teach you from the universal perspective of objectiveness. I’m not saying definitely whether it is right or wrong that a woman can wear the pants in the family, but I want you to the side for yourself what kind of man you are and what you want to put up with in the future.
If you end up or choose to be with one of these strong independent women, you are going to have a lot more oppression in your life than you realize, I can guarantee it. It is not in a man’s inherent nature and been to be held back and repressed from his role as head of the household and provider.
So many families today, the woman is the one in control and the man is just feeling more and more like the screen door hit him on the way out. The fact that our media portrays this, as men being incompetent buffoons, truly cements this role reversal. And it is quite pathetic I think.
If you are married, I do not want to give you advice but you are responsible for the decisions you make and hopefully you can still communicate a lot and make things work. However many married men are finding they are in way too deep into a situation that really does not feel natural to them.
My words of advice if you will are that, it is NOT natural. Seat can breathe a little sigh of relief there. However we still have to live with these women, if we have already chosen that.
You could say that this is a pessimistic view, but someone needs to bring it up because there is a reason we have a 50% divorce rate and no one is talking about the real reason why.
Entire lives and families are destroyed founded upon a woman’s empowerment and independence (sure just put me on Oprah right now); but let me repeat again that independent women, although they have a lot of drama have added a lot of value (unparalleled value) to our society and the world.
Relationships today have become part of this 50-50 relationship dynamic in which both the man and woman tried to balance things out. Now a woman has more demands and expectations than ever before in history, this makes it harder for them and to just do his part of being head of the household when she is always on his tail about something.
So if you are still a single man, I strongly encourage you to think about the consequences of being with one of these women and a long-term relationship. Though I bet this is going to piss a lot of women off but you know what? For your sake and the sake of American men it needs to be said.
You should have the full right to determine and choose your life path without having to give in to a woman’s demands which are based on unnatural foundations.
I think American men have the right to come home and not hear about not stop nagging about small little details of inconsequential things. No matter what these women will say to counteract what I am sane, that just proves that they really are coming from their own independence and perception of the world as they know it.
Little do they realize or even respect the fact that most of the women in the world, (although not as developed psychologically or motivationally), would be happy just to be their natural role of a mother while the man takes care of providing for the family.
They cannot imagine that these traditional women would let men get away with some of the things they do; the sad reality is that American men are letting women get away with some of the things they do (which is unnaturally founded).
It is not the natural role for a woman to wear the pants in the family. So decide for yourself where you stand on this issue, and think about the consequences of being in a long-term relationship with a very independent woman.
I do not want you to become just another statistic. It is about time that American men understand what is going on, and take back their power. Maybe at this point women will really respect men for finally standing up.
Rion Williams
rion@modelmagnet.com
Mens Guide to Women
